If you’re a busy person and need to spend time with a stranger, there are plenty of things you can do to make sure they’re not a bother.
Here are some things to consider.
What to expect The first thing you need to do is be polite and courteous.
Don’t assume you can just come and be with anyone.
You may feel like you have an obligation to go and meet them, but you may not.
If you can’t decide who to invite, try and think of a way to make it feel like the people you’re meeting aren’t a nuisance.
Ask them about themselves.
Don the polite, polite thing by making a quick note of who they are, what they do and what they want to talk about.
Make it clear that you can make the time and place work around them and invite them back later.
The second thing to consider is that your house may be crowded.
If it’s crowded, it’s a good idea to try and find a quieter spot.
Try to avoid making eye contact with the people at the door.
They may not be comfortable being in your presence, so try to be as discreet as possible.
Try not to stare at them too long.
Don`t make eye contact or stare at anyone for too long, even if you can see them from a distance.
If there is someone who is being inconsiderate, you can also talk to them directly.
Do not make eye-contact with the person next to you, unless they’re in front of you.
If they are in front, try to make eye contacts and shake hands with them.
They should be willing to answer any questions you might have.
If the person behind them doesn’t have an invitation, try calling and talking to them.
If all else fails, you may need to inform them that you will be coming, but it will be a short walk.
This is one of the easiest ways to get people to come.
If someone is being uninvitable, you might want to try a different approach.
Ask if they’re going to a restaurant.
Ask what they have to eat.
Ask for directions.
You don’t need to go out of your way to avoid this situation, and it can work better if you’re willing to give up your privacy.
The third thing to look out for is that the host may be a stranger.
Be polite but not too formal, or you could be in for a rude awakening.
Some hosts will have a rule that guests must only be invited if they are of legal age, which is different from the legal age requirement in many other countries.
If a guest is too young to be invited, you should try to arrange a meeting beforehand, and make sure you ask the host to allow a friend or family member to be the guest.
Try and find someone who knows people who have a similar age to you.
The fourth thing to do if you feel like someone is uninviting is to check to make certain you’re not being followed.
If possible, try not to follow the person back to their house.
If that fails, call the police.
If your host refuses to let you in, you could try to leave a message on their door or on the doorbell.
If this doesn’t work, try asking them to leave the house, or calling the police if they can’t.
If an unannounced visitor is a problem, you have the option to call the local police.
There are other ways to help avoid uninvitations, such as getting an invitation before going to the restaurant, not asking for directions or not using your mobile phone, for example.
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